posted: Jun. 02, 2020.
by Elizabeth Burgess
I have been thinking a lot this week about choices, and how the ways in which we make decisions impact our wellness. Martha Beck wrote, "Every time life brings you to a crossroads, from the tiniest to the most immense, go toward love, not away from fear."
I first saw this quote in O, The Oprah Magazine in July 2008, and I promptly cut it out and stuck it on my fridge as a daily reminder. It's still there, and still as meaningful to me as it was twelve years ago when I grabbed my scissors.
Sometimes, we feel overwhelmed, or stuck, or like there's not a good answer among all the various options we have, and sometimes bad decisions are simply habitual. These feelings are all grounded in fear – fear of making the wrong choice, fear of stasis or fear of change, and fear of choosing the lesser of evils rather than the greater good.
Remaining in a place when we are afraid to choose, or where we feel compelled to make a decision that is less than optimal, can lead to a decrease in wellness. I invite you to take a breath before you decide. When you are ready, allow yourself one deep breath in, filling your lungs all the way, a brief pause, and then out all the way.
With a clearer mind, you can examine the motivation behind your decision, find your courage, and move toward love.